I like attention. By that I do not mean that I want to be the centre of attention at a party. Or that I want everyone to look and listen to me all the time. No. By that I mean that I like to know that people care enough about me to give me their time. But when this happens there is also a problem. I get attached. And I get attached quickly.
When someone spends time talking to me I start to get attached. This means that if we start talking and we get on together then I will more than likely want to speak to you all the time. And when you decide that you’re done talking to me I will find it difficult to let go. This becomes a problem when people decide that they no longer want me in their life. When you have people in your life that decide, one day, to let you go without so much as an explanation it is possibly the worst thing. Well it is for me.
This has happened a lot over the years. There are people that I thought I would be friends with forever and now they don’t talk to me at all. As in I never hear from them. I have finally learned to let people go but it is not an easy thing for me to do. If I get attached to you then I need you to tell me to back off. In a nice way. I need you to tell me that you no longer want to speak to me. And I need you to tell me what the problem is.
I don’t have very many friends that I can talk to so that means I tend to latch onto people. It means that I form attachments very quickly when I think that someone could become a good friend. I will either get attached very quickly or not get attached at all. There are very few times when I will actually be in the middle.
One of the most difficult things for me is to be having a great conversation with someone and then all of a sudden they stop replying. I won’t send you hundreds of messages asking why you’re not replying. Eventually I will delete the chat and move past it. But it’s not easy.
When I get upset over things like this I do not need people telling me that it’s the other person’s loss. Yes, it is. But it is my loss as well. When you get attached to people quickly and suddenly you have to let them go it is not easy. Those people will more than likely forget about me, and what we shared, but I won’t. I don’t forget. As good as that can be, it can also be a problem.
Forming such quick attachments to people is something that I am working on. I really am trying to stop getting attached so quickly but unfortunately that is not something that I can really control.
Do you get attached to people quickly? Can you share any tips with me on how to stop? Let me know in the comments below!