Life Doesn’t Always Go As Planned…And That’s Okay

I had a 5 and 10 year plan when I was in high school. I love planning things and my life was no exception. When I was 25 I would be married with a baby on the way. I would also have graduated university with a journalism degree. The plan was to be a sports photographer.

Everything started out well enough and after school I went to study journalism. Suddenly at the end of my first year things changed and I did not go back the following year, instead I became a waitress at a coffee shop. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life because my plan hadn’t worked out and I didn’t have a back up.

One day I was walking through a shopping centre and I decided that I wanted to be a teacher. I applied to both my local university and a correspondence university to study teaching. I was accepted into my local university and the following year I started studying…again.

During the next 4 years I made some really good friends and some great memories. When I graduated I decided that I wanted to be an Au Pair in America for a year or two before I started teaching. I planned everything and finally made my way to New York where I would be working. However, that did not work out and a few months later I found my way back home again. Finding a job proved to be really difficult as it was towards the end of the school year. I applied to several schools and had a couple of interviews but with no luck.

Towards the beginning of this year I found out that one of my dream schools was hiring so I applied. I received a  phone call and got an interview, on my birthday no less! For the past 4 months I have been working there and I am loving it.

I turned 25 this year and I am still single, with no children. But I believe I will meet the right person when we’re both ready. I have also decided on a new 5 year plan. Just because this one didn’t work out for me it doesn’t mean I have given up.

A lot of things have not work out as planned but if none of them had happened I would not be where I am today. So, to bring me back to the thought behind this post, life doesn’t always work out the way you want it to, or expect it to but sometimes that means that better things are waiting to happen.


Kirsty x



  1. August 15, 2016 / 16:19

    Great post! I am really getting a lesson in plans not working out this year. My husband was set to take over for his boss at his job but then their company was getting replaced. He would still have a job but he would probably not be promoted as the new company would be bringing managers in. I felt stressed but he immediately started applying to management jobs within his contractor. Within 2 weeks he was hired on as a manager at a kids hospital, his dream job, and he’s loving it! We had to postpone a fall vacation but that was besides the point. His new job is somewhat temporary but he could be hired on if they like him. If not it could bring us out of where we are living now. I tell myself to embrace any changes or curve balls life has to throw at you. If we planned life out it may be too dull and boring!

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 15, 2016 / 16:23

      Ah I am so sorry to hear about what happened but it is amazing that your husband has found his dream job and I really hope that he gets to stay in that job for many, many years to come! It can be so scary and upsetting when things don’t work out but when even greater things happen it makes me remember that it all happened for a reason!

  2. August 15, 2016 / 17:30

    This is a great post! such a lovely reminder 🙂 I definitely understand how it feels when life doesn’t go the way you planned it. I remember in high school my plan was to go straight to a four year university.. that didn’t happen I ended up going to a community college but I did so well and transferred to a four year university that I love! Plus I met my bestfriend in my community college haha. Sometimes when life doesn’t go your way it is not always for the worse. I love what you said at the end, to not give up x

    Nikki O.|

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 15, 2016 / 18:36

      AH I am so glad that things worked out for you in the end! It can be so scary and frustrating when things don’t work out but I always like to believe that there is a reason for that and that something better is coming! It can be hard to always believe that though haha!

  3. August 15, 2016 / 18:21

    This is a beautiful post. I was always a ‘planner’ – I would plan everything…and sometimes it’d work out, while other times it wouldn’t work out as planned. What I have learned is that you can never predict what is going to happen in your life and so you just have to live life in the moment, enjoy it and look forward to what’s next. So I’ve stopped making plans, because I found that I’d let it dictate what I would do, which meant a lot of times I’d miss out on doing things or down the track I’d regret not doing certain things. I am just living… and will just be prepared for what’s to come, good or bad.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 15, 2016 / 18:37

      That is the best way of looking at things and I absolutely love your outlook on life and in the way that you look at things. I need to plan because otherwise I get freaked out and really anxious about things but I have also come to learn that if things don’t go to plan it’s not the absolute end of the world! 🙂

  4. August 15, 2016 / 18:33

    So very true and if you don’t have anything to aim for life can be pretty sad…

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 15, 2016 / 18:44

      Yes, I absolutely agree!

  5. August 15, 2016 / 20:18

    I really loved this post. In the past week, I’ve decided that I am going to leave university due to a long list of reasons that I won’t go into here. I’ve always wanted to teach but without a degree, it’s impossible to do and yet it would be almost impossible for me to continue in my course (Physics). While my family don’t accept this, I completely agree with you that just because my plan from a young age hasn’t worked doesn’t mean I can’t do something great with my life. There are so many opportunities for us all to develop, and I’m sure that in the next 5-10 years you’ll find the perfect person to settle down with (maybe even sooner!) and things will be exactly the way they’re meant to be. Everything happens for a reason ?

    Great blog post! I’m so grateful to have found it as the first post to read on your blog!

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      September 11, 2016 / 20:19

      Thank you so much and I am so sorry I have not replied! I only saw this now! I am a teacher and I know you can do assistant teaching at some paces without a degree! 🙂 Everything will work out for you as well! I have faith in that 🙂 x

  6. August 24, 2016 / 19:05

    My experience with planning life is that I wasted my time being disappointed by things that didn’t turn out right instead of enjoying the surprises that came my way. It’s over. I’m not planning but managing my focus on what is good and letting life carry me from wave to wave like a good surfer.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 24, 2016 / 19:41

      That is actually a really good way of looking at things! 🙂

  7. August 24, 2016 / 20:11

    I feel like you took the exact words right out of my mouth. I’m 22 but I feel like life has its own path that is not always as planned as you think it should. I mean it doesn’t bother me at all, it just scares me sometimes. Although, I must say, I am looking forward to it.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 24, 2016 / 20:28

      It can be very scary but so many great things happen that are unplanned so it’s good that you’re looking forward to it 🙂

  8. August 24, 2016 / 21:32

    I’m a planner. Simple as that. It’s a hard pill to swallow when things don’t go the way you thought. But really the fun is in the unexpected. I’m headed down a path I never dreamed and it’s the best things that’s ever happened.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 26, 2016 / 14:58

      Absolutely! I agree with you so much on this! I am so glad for you as well 🙂

  9. August 27, 2016 / 18:15

    Love this post! I remember in High School having a similar plan…kids & career by 25. Life gets sidetracked a lot, but I love where I’ve wound up! Thanks for the smile 🙂

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      August 27, 2016 / 19:04

      Thank you! Ah I am so glad that everything worked out for you! 🙂

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