The stigma around online relationships

Today I want to talk about the stigma of relationships where people meet online. I know people who find that whenever people find out that they met their partner online their whole attitude changes. My question to this is why?

Now there are two parts to this story. The first one is that there are so many dating apps out there and people seem to think that meeting someone on there is fine but the minute you say you met someone on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, then suddenly that’s not okay? There is literally no difference between meeting someone on a dating app or meeting someone on another form of social media. In both instances you don’t know the person, meet online, and take things from there.

The other side is that some people are completely put off the minute you mention you met online, whether it be a dating app, or other social media sites. They flat out refuse to believe that you can be a normal relationship because you met online. “Couldn’t find someone in ‘real life’ so you had to look on the internet?” they scoff. This is absolutely not the case. There are numerous reasons why people join dating apps. Also if you meet on another form of social media then maybe you weren’t even looking? Maybe it just happened?

People then turn around and go, “Oh, but you don’t know what kind of person they are if you haven’t met them in real life.” Personally, if I was to go down this road, I would definitely meet the person in real life before I made any decisions about being in a relationship with them. That’s just me though, I know that a lot of people start dating and enter into actual online relationships before they have met.

Also, can I just point out that just because you meet someone in ‘real life’ and not online it does not mean that they are automatically a good person. They could be a complete psycho when there’s a perfectly normal guy/girl looking for love online. Meeting someone in the ‘real world’ does NOT make them any less likely to be dangerous.

The main ‘problem’ between meeting someone online and meeting someone in ‘real life’ is that they might live far away from you. However, I am not really sure that that poses too much of a problem anymore though. I mean sure is it ideal to not see your partner for long periods of time? No. But does it make you care about them any less? No. We live in a time where we are lucky enough to be able to fly anywhere in the world and it won’t take forever. Yes, I know that it costs money, sometimes a lot, but honestly I would say it would be worth it.

So there are my thoughts on relationships where people meet online. I don’t see an issue with them, at all. And if you have a problem with them then you don’t have to enter into one, but please be respectful of those who are 🙂

Have you ever met someone online and started dating them? Have you ever entered into any online relationships? If you haven’t then would you consider it? Let me know in the comments below!

Love,

Kirsty x

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2 Comments

  1. June 18, 2017 / 12:15

    Loved this beaut! So real and honest! I totally agree – it’s 2017 people meet online all the time and it shouldn’t be looked down on.
    Thanks for sharing gorg xxx

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      June 19, 2017 / 16:41

      Thank you so much! It’s just something I have been wanting to get off my chest for a while now! x

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