Why I Hate Facebook…and Why I Won’t Leave

facebook

It started 9 years ago when I first created a Facebook account. Okay so maybe that is a bit dramatic but Facebook is becomingย a source of unhappiness for me. Why don’t I just leave? Well that’s what this blog post is going to be about.

I am 25 which is kind of terrifying because I thought that by this age I would have my life together. I would be married and either pregnant or already have a baby. As it stands I am lying on the couch on a Sunday evening in my pyjamas, single, and watching Friends.

Every time I go on Facebook I see someone else that I was at school with has got engaged, married, or is having a baby. There are people that I went to school with that have 3 children. Recently I had a conversation with my friend about wanting to be a mum (and a wife) and she asked if I was really ready for it. I literally sat (well we were walking) and told her my entire plan about how I would juggle work and motherhood.

I think that it’s because all I’ve wanted is to be a wife and a mum. And the fact that it doesn’t seem to be happening any time soon is scary for me. But what does this have to do with Facebook? Every day I see other people, the same age as me, who are making their dreams come true and getting what I’m waiting for.

I mean I know that there is a plan for my life and that when the time is right it will happen but waiting around is the hardest thing to do. Also, so many people that I was at school with are moving to England which has only been my dream for the past 15 years but am I moving? The answer to that is a big, fat nope! And this faces meย on Facebook on a daily basis.

So why do I continue to stay?

Because seeing people realising their dreams makes me happy. I love seeing people who are doing what they want to do and are doing so well for themselves. Also, I am nosy as heck!

I hope that this rant hasn’t been too off putting. This is something I have been thinking about for a while and I needed a place to share my feelings. Isn’t that what having a blog is all about?

Also (here comes a shameless plug) since you’re here how about giving me a little like on my Facebook page ๐Ÿ˜‰

Does anyone else have any of these feelings so I can feel a little bit less crazy? Let me know in the comments!

Love,

Kirsty x

Follow:
Share:

22 Comments

  1. abbeylouisarose
    October 20, 2016 / 18:11

    I’m also super super nosey haha which is one of the main reasons that I haven’t deactivated FB! I deleted it for a while as I was taking my uni exams but I do like using it as a platform just to message people and keep in contact with those whose phone numbers I don’t have! Thanks for sharing your thoughts, you’re not alone!

    Abbey ? http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 31, 2016 / 16:46

      Thank you! Sometimes I worry that I let it consume me too much but I just cannot help myself haha! x

  2. October 20, 2016 / 18:11

    Omg I’m 21 and see people from my school having kids and I’m like slow down!! Ahaha love this post!! xox

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 31, 2016 / 16:47

      haha exactly me!!

  3. October 20, 2016 / 18:13

    I’m such a stalker online! I love seeing what everyone is up to! Especially seeing trips away and celebrations, it’s so lovely. I personally hate when people just moan on there tbh! That’s the worst when it’s for silly reasons :’)

    I hope the negatives and family posts don’t bring you down too much, remember everyone is different and we shouldn’t compare <3 xx

    sophieannetaylor.blogspot.co.uk

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 31, 2016 / 16:48

      Thank you! Yeah, I am permanently online looking at things haha! x

  4. October 20, 2016 / 18:15

    I think social media always gives you the inpression that your life isn’t as good as it should be but the grass is always greener! I was actually thinking about this on the tube earlier – how funny that when we see our friends we don’t tell each other new stories but embellish on the little snippets we’ve put on Facebook! It fascinates me in one way but makes me kind of sad in another! But I do love Facebook as a photo album ๐Ÿ™‚ I really liked this post!

    Becca | theapresgal.com

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 20, 2016 / 19:34

      Thank you so much! Social media is so hard for me sometimes! I love this comment so much and I appreciate the time you took to write it x

  5. October 20, 2016 / 18:20

    I’ve begun to realise that I don’t really like Facebook so much either for these exact reasons- it seems like everyone seems to be documenting their life and their relationships which is hard because I’ve just come out of quite a committed relationship. I’m now away from Facebook and I have been so much happier. Social media can be more toxic than it seems. Great post lovely, everything will work out in the end. X

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 20, 2016 / 19:36

      Ah I am sorry to hear that! I keep telling myself to take a break from social media but I don’t really know what else to do with my life. I’m pretty sad, I know haha! x

  6. October 20, 2016 / 18:23

    I really don’t use Facebook much anymore, and honestly it’s for a lot of these same reasons!! I only ever go on there to speak to my parents when I go away aha! xx

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 20, 2016 / 19:35

      I definitely don’t use it as much as I used to – Facebook memories show me how embarrassing I used to be haha! x

  7. October 20, 2016 / 18:30

    I agree with you! I love seeing people on facebook better their lives, be it through becoming a parent, getting married, new job etc! Ultimately, I’m just super nosey. But I genuinely love seeing people achieve what they want to do! xo

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 20, 2016 / 19:32

      haha I am so nosy as well! But I am glad that so many people are happy x

  8. October 20, 2016 / 18:36

    I am not a fan of Facebook, but mostly because I feel people get too personal sometimes. I rather just have my Facebook page for my blog and do without the personal one, but we can’t do that; another reason I don’t like Facebook.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 20, 2016 / 19:34

      Some people definitely get too personal! I don’t use Facebook as much as I used to. I share a lot less these days! x

  9. October 20, 2016 / 18:41

    For years, it seemed like everyone on my feed was getting engaged, married or having children! But now, at 27, that person is me! It’ll happen when it’s meant to ๐Ÿ™‚

    Skye

    http://www.theskyelife.com

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 20, 2016 / 19:32

      Ah I am so happy for you! x

  10. October 23, 2016 / 01:13

    I can totally understand what you’re feeling. I’m 28 and my life is sooo far from being in order. The only good thing for me is that I don’t want to get married and have kids, but that doesn’t make it any easier for me to see others building their lives. And I agree, I’m happy for them but it can be so frustrating. They all have jobs and plans for the future, money to travel etc. And I’m living in my mom’s basement, I have been unemployed for a year and I’m forever single. But as you say, there is a plan for all of us and eventually we’ll succeed. I wish you all the best for the future and that you will find prince charming. And as I told you, if you need to send sexy messages, holla at me. ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ I’m sure that lots and lots of people share your love-hate-relationship with Facebook and the struggle of adulthood. Great post. ๐Ÿ™‚

    XX Hailey – http://www.haileyjaderyan.com // http://www.instagram.com/haileyjaderyan

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 23, 2016 / 15:41

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment and all of your thoughts and support! I really appreciate it! I wish all the best for you as well! I know that you will succeed, even if things might not seem that way right now. Every thing will be fine x

  11. October 23, 2016 / 20:43

    I personally don’t like facebook. I have an account for family and very close friends but I won’t add anyone on it, even if you’re a blogger I’ve met about ten times. I don’t even have a facebook account for my blog I hate it that much. I see a lot of school friends on there etc and just wonder what you’re doing with their lives etc and it’s upsetting sometimes. I don’t like facebook but agree I could never leave it really. ???โœจ

    With love, Alisha Valerie. x
    http://www.AlishaValerie.com || http://www.twitter.com/AlishaValerie

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      October 25, 2016 / 16:44

      Yeah, I have too many people on Facebook that I don’t really want on there anymore. I think that a cleanout is in order!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *