My Ideal Husband: Then and Now

When I was younger I wanted the fairy tale. I would marry a rich, good looking man – preferably a celebrity and live the life. He would propose with a beautiful, and very big, diamond ring and the proposal would be somewhere overseas. Think Paris, Rome – anywhere but here really. Oh, did I forget to mention he would almost certainly be from England.

We would get married in a lavish ceremony and invite all of our family and friends. With my husband being a celebrity, Hello Magazine would probably want to cover our wedding. I would be absolutely fine with that, of course. All of his celebrity friends would be there. I would be friends with them as well by that point obviously. We would have the kind of wedding that most people only dream of.

Our reception would be in a big castle and everyone would possibly stay there too. I had even found the castle the reception was going to be in. That is probably where I got the idea in the first place. It would definitely be something that everyone would remember.

Now? I still want the fairy tale. But as far as who I marry – those criteria have changed. A lot. Now I want a husband who loves family. Who wants a big family and is willing to put his family first. I want someone honest, someone kind. He has to be reliable. I need to know that I can count on him. A sense of humour is very important because life can be difficult and you need someone who can make you forget about all of that for a while. Also, he should be able to laugh at himself. He doesn’t have to be the richest guy but he does need to have ambition and be a hard worker.

The ring? Well, let’s be honest, I wouldn’t say no to a big, diamond ring but that’s not the most important thing. If he has taken the time to think about what I would like and what would suit me – that is more important to me. I want to look at the ring knowing that thought and effort went into choosing it and that it was chosen just for me.

The location? It doesn’t have to be somewhere exotic, or even somewhere overseas. I’m not going to create a dream proposal on here but as long as it’s meaningful – something that is meaningful to both of us, I’ll be happy. I want it to be something that we will remember for the rest of our lives. Just as long as he makes sure my nails are painted before hand 😉

See, I grew up and I realised what was important. I realised what I wanted from a husband and from a marriage. I realised that no matter how good looking or rich a man might be, there are some things that are more important. When you marry someone you’re committing yourself to that person for the rest of your life. Looks can fade and money can disappear so there has to be something more.

I’m still waiting for my real life Prince Charming and until then I’ll continue to dream; not of the rich, handsome prince, but rather of the good guy with decent values and a kind heart.

Kirsty x

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  1. Aug 15, 2018 / 13:34

    Love it! If you wanted to make it longer, it would still be great! Plus, I feel like you could totally turn this into a series on how other things in your life change as you grow!

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      Aug 15, 2018 / 14:30

      Thank you so much! That means a lot! I always worry about making posts too long in case people get bored halfway through haha! Also, a series is a fabulous idea! 💝

  2. Thingsinherhead
    Aug 15, 2018 / 15:23

    Awww, this is such a great post to read. I feel happy for you and I do hope you find that Prince Charming soon!!

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      Aug 15, 2018 / 20:25

      Thank you so much! That honestly means so much to me x

  3. hal
    Aug 15, 2018 / 19:31

    I kinda like shorter posts too & that way you can split your info into a bunch of shorter posts that keep me coming back for more – if the post is too long I become more inclined to just skim over the post.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      Aug 15, 2018 / 20:26

      Thank you so much! I guess both have their pros and cons x

  4. Aug 15, 2018 / 22:15

    It’s always great to imagine the best possible outcome to a life event. I love your Paris idea! It was mine, too! I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and it feels like a fairytale even though we didn’t go to Paris.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      Aug 15, 2018 / 23:01

      Thank you! Ah well that makes me so happy to hear – and congratulations! x

  5. Marisa
    Aug 16, 2018 / 22:48

    This is such a great way to look at it.. I wish so bad that I took the time to think about who I wanted to be with. These are all important traits and you should be looking for someone that is closest to this as possible.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      Aug 21, 2018 / 19:17

      Thank you so much! It is definitely something I probably spend way too much time thinking about haha!

  6. Aug 26, 2018 / 11:14

    But wait. Can’t we have both? Rich, handsome celebrity with all the best traits a person can have? Cause I want that haha
    I always wanted a movie love. I still do. But my husband picks have changed from young Brad Pitt and Patrick Schwarzenegger (still an option haha) to local, ‘normal’ guys…
    I don’t think that first fantasy will ever go away. It fades as you grow up and learn some things and how life works and is, but it’ll always be there as the ‘perfect’ thing.

    • Kirsty Hoggons
      Nov 12, 2018 / 11:11

      Yes! We absolutely can have both! Why should we restrict ourselves haha! I fully agree with you though. I think that having a movie love will be something I will always wish for and maybe, just maybe, one day we’ll find it!

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